A woman seeks support from the Reddit community after a shocking revelation about her new roommate鈥檚 family situation left her questioning everything.
Hoping to make ends meet while pursuing her higher education, the 26-year-old student decided to sublease her second bedroom in a military town.
She thought she had found the perfect solution when her landlord, who is also a work acquaintance, gave her permission to bring in a roommate.
In her post, she explains that she met “this younger military guy through a friend of a friend who just divorced and was looking for a place to live.”
Wanting to avoid any surprises, she asked the man 鈥渋f he had a girlfriend or anything, in reference to us having visitors.”
She was also upfront about her own relationship, noting that her boyfriend “comes over on Wednesday and Friday nights,” but she “could reduce it to once a week” if that made her roommate uncomfortable.
She requested that her new roommate not have anyone over more than twice a week, referencing stories she鈥檚 read about roommates who let their significant others basically move in.
He agreed that her request was reasonable, and she felt confident they were on the same page before he even moved in.
For a brief moment, everything seemed to be going according to plan.
However, just one week after settling in, her roommate dropped a bombshell that changed everything. 鈥淗e mentioned to me that Friday he would be picking up his kids, and they would be staying over the weekend until Monday,鈥 she writes, stunned by the news.
She notes that he “did not tell me he has kids,” and she believes he “deliberately hid it” from her to secure the apartment.
The revelation left her 鈥渁bsolutely bewildered.鈥 She confronted him directly, asking why he never mentioned having children, and he simply shrugged, saying 鈥渉e didn鈥檛 think it was important.鈥
Trying to understand the logistics, she asked where the kids would sleep, and he said he planned to 鈥渟et them up in the living room.鈥 The situation quickly escalated when she learned he has 鈥3 kids ages 1-5!鈥
She was firm about her boundaries, telling him, 鈥渢here鈥檚 no way he鈥檚 putting his kids on my white couch, and in fact, if his kids even show up I鈥檓 going to have our landlord evict him and I will go up to his command and start problems.鈥
While she admits “it was very much a threat,鈥 she still stands by her reaction.
“He cannot have them over, it鈥檚 absolutely insane that he would hide having three small children from me,” she writes. “I feel tricked.鈥
Her roommate, however, was devastated, explaining that his custody agreement allows him to have his children every other weekend, but he can鈥檛 bring them to the barracks. 鈥淗e has to have a place,鈥 she writes, noting that he is $25,000 in debt and can鈥檛 afford a place on his own.
His plan, she learned, was to 鈥渞ent someone鈥檚 spare bedroom to save money.鈥 He confided that he struggled to find a place until she offered him the room, and now fears that if she kicks him out, 鈥渉e won鈥檛 be able to have his kids, and it鈥檒l be my fault if he loses custody.鈥
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She is torn, asking the community if she鈥檚 wrong in her boundary. However, she makes it clear that she is “willing to do whatever I need to do to get him out” if he brings his kids over. “I鈥檓 starting to regret trying to save money but even having a roommate,” she adds.
鈥淚 feel like having three kids under the age of six that you have partial custody of is absolutely the kind of thing you tell a potential roommate!” she ends the post.