For the first time in a long time, I was really nervous (Picture: Rocky Batchelor)
Flicking through guy after guy on my phone, I finally saw him. Simon*. He was exactly my type – tall, muscular, handsome.
I sent him a message, he replied immediately and we arranged for him to come to my house the next night.
Waiting for him to arrive, I fixed my hair, touched up my makeup and chose the perfect outfit – cute, sexy, yet classy – and, as always, a matching set of lacy underwear.
And for the first time in a long time, I was really nervous.
As a high-class escort, I’m used to men coming over to have sex with me. But this time, there was a key difference: I was the one who was paying.
I’ve been an escort for about four years.
Very early on, one of my mentors told me that every escort should experience what it’s like to be a client at least once in their career, just to get a feel of what it’s like the other way around.
That stuck with me – but it took me a long time to actually try.
All I wanted was good, consistent sex with someone hot who made me laugh (Picture: Aaron Chan Chui)
I was 25 when I started in this industry and my needs then were different to what I need now. After a series of bad dates and failed flings earlier this year (not work-related, of course), I couldn’t bear yet another romantic failure. I decided it was finally the right time to try out booking a male escort.
All I wanted was good, consistent sex with someone hot who made me laugh.
It’s not that I never get this at work – some of the best sex I’ve ever had has been with clients, and there have been some really hot guys – but I wanted sex on my terms: When and where I want it, and entirely about me and my pleasure.
That may sound a little selfish, but when you’re in the business of pleasing others, your own pleasure often gets forgotten about.
So, I began scanning through the escort ads online and eventually came across Simon – who charges £900 for four hours.
He seemed to fit the part – but then I worried that he wouldn’t look like his photos, or that we wouldn’t get along.
It was the best I’ve ever had in my entire life (Picture: Aaron Chan Chui)
For the first time, I experienced what my clients must feel before meeting me. It brought home why my mentor insisted I do this; a whole new aspect of my work opened up.
I needn’t have panicked, however. Not only was Simon more attractive in real life, but we also got along famously.
We started off just chatting. We shared the same sense of humour; he was very smart, well-read, and a great listener. Talk about meeting my dream guy! There was also instant chemistry, so it wasn’t long before he pulled me into his arms, kissed me, and then carried me upstairs.
As for the sex, let’s just say… It was the best I’ve ever had in my entire life!
I now truly understood the value of paying for sex. When you’re busy focusing on other things in your life, you don’t always have time to invest in a relationship but we’re all human. The yearning for the connection you only have with someone special, and the longing for intimacy, doesn’t go away.
Personally, I’m at a point in my life where having a relationship is difficult. I work long hours daily, I travel a lot and the work I do is hard for a lot of men to accept.
When we’re together we do many of the things that normal couples would do (Picture: Emma Salmon)
Having Simon as a part-time pseudo-boyfriend is perfect.
Since our first meeting, I’ve seen him about eight times, with a visit at least once a month when I can fit it into my schedule – and he doesn’t get offended, nor does he ask for more.
When we’re together we do many of the things that normal couples would do: We go out for dinner, take showers together, cook and go for walks around the city. He even changed a light for me once! We occasionally message each other between meetings about random things, like watching a show or trying a restaurant that the other person recommended.
I like that it feels like we are fake-dating. It’s nice having that one, consistent person and I like that we get to pretend to be a couple, without any of the hassle, commitment, stress or jealousy of a real relationship. There are disruptions to my social life or mental health and I can focus on my career. I feel like I get the best of both worlds.
Admittedly, I have thought about trying a different male escort, just to mix things up, but I feel that that would ruin the ‘fake relationship’ that he and I have.
All I want right now? Good sex, and a lot of it (Picture: Rocky Batchelor)
I appreciate that hiring an escort wouldn’t be everyone’s cup of tea, and that some people think I could achieve the same if I just dated, but finding a guy that hot, funny and good in bed? It’s not easy.
I do still go on the occasional date outside of work, but I’m not really looking to settle down anytime soon. All I want right now? Good sex, and a lot of it.
To me, paying for a male escort is a form of self-care and is no different from paying for a personal trainer or aesthetician.
I always feel on top of the world after I meet Simon, and I don’t plan on stopping anytime soon.
*Name has been changed
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