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Dating abroad can be fun and exciting — whether you’re a digital nomad taking roots somewhere new or just looking for a holiday romance, creating connections abroad is one of the best ways to really get to know a culture and its people.
“When you’re dating abroad, you’re not just learning about someone new—you’re learning how to communicate, adapt, and let go of expectations. It’s less about finding ‘the one’ and more about finding pieces of yourself in unexpected places. And who knows… maybe even Mr. Right,” explained Sherita Janielle, owner of the Modern Woman Agenda and author of The Digital Nomad Blueprint.
If you’re considering dating abroad, these expert-led tips will help ensure a positive experience:
Keep an open mind.
“You’ll run into cultural differences, potential language barriers, to other international travelers too. First and foremost, leap in with an open mind; if anything, you’re about to learn something new, which could change your entire perspective,” said Emma Hathorn, dating and relationship expert at Seeking.com. “That open mind is key— who knows, you might end up living in Seoul with a partner you never anticipated, learning a new language, moving your business to a completely different country.”
Be clear about what you want.
“Casual, curious, or looking for connection—whatever it is, say it,” suggested Janielle. “That level of directness is often appreciated more abroad than we expect.”
Be open to it just being a story.
“Honestly, dating while traveling is part cultural exchange, part rom-com, part crash course in self-awareness. Sometimes you get a built-in tour guide; other times, just a great story,” added Janielle. “Whether it’s a sunset boat ride in Greece or an espresso date that turns into a walking tour, even the most fleeting moments can make a destination more memorable.
Don’t let excitement override safety.
“It’s easy to get caught up in the excitement of traveling and the whirlwind of a romance. However, you should always approach dating abroad with the same caution as you do at home,” said Katie Treharne, travel blogger and owner of Escape Artist Katie. “ For example, I recommend that you let a trusted person know your date plans or share your location. It’s also best to meet in the daytime, in a busy place that you’re somewhat familiar with. If you need to make a swift exit, you need to know the route back to your hotel.”
“I have never actively sought out dates when abroad, mainly because my number one rule is that I will only date people whom I have met organically,” added Treharne. “Ideally, this would start with an introduction from a friend or acquaintance. For example, I met my partner of 1.5 years in Madeira after meeting him at a digital nomad community event; we also had a mutual friend, who gave a glowing recommendation.”
Be honest with yourself if you want something long-term.
“When dating abroad, it’s easy to ignore important considerations. If you’re dating to find a long-term partner, you need to consider the logistics, like what passports you hold,” pointed out Treharne. “If, eventually, you wanted to move to their country, what steps would you need to take? Do you need a visa, and how easy is it to get?”
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